Fresh View on Having Relationships in College
When we go to college, we often expect to meet new people and build new romantic relationships. This article is devoted to something I learned from my past relationships that failed.
All my friends note that I am very unlucky when it comes to dating. Indeed, I cannot tell that I experienced at least one healthy relationship in college. All my romances ended up in failure, and it was very painful. However, if you ask me whether I regret having them, I would say “No.” I have made such a decision after realizing the fact that all the negative feelings I had in my past relationships have helped me to form my view of men and myself.
In this article, I summarized the things I found out about men and myself after having gone through romantic relationships in college. I hope it will inspire you to take a closer look at your dating partners and never repeat my mistakes.
How I Perceive Myself
The Perks of Being a Wallflower is my favorite book partially because the quote about love “we accept the love we think we deserve” provided in it represents the way I viewed myself in the past. I did not think that I am good enough for anyone, that is why I allowed those guys to treat me in bad ways. I simply thought that it was the love I deserved.
Now I am certain that a person who wants someone else to love him/her, should fall in love with himself/herself first. I learned how to value myself, and now I am not going to allow anyone to treat me in a bad way.
In addition, I realized that it is wrong to let a person into your life if there is no true attachment to him/her. Instead of giving true love a chance, you waste your time with a person who is not in line with your expectations of a life-partner.
How I Perceive Men
After dating several men with different character traits, I created the list of things I love and hate in men.
Although all of my partners were jerks, there were certain things I liked about them, including getting love text messages, especially when I did not expect them. It really made me feel being a special person to him. Also, I like men who have a dorky side, because it is easy to persuade them to do something that they do not really enjoy, but what brings pleasure to me, for example, watching sci-fi. Moreover, I like to know that a man has good relationship with his parents, because it makes me confident that he will be a good husband and father.
On the other hand, I realized that the sense of humor is essential in men. Also, I will not continue a relationship if I find out that a man shows no interest in meeting my family and friends.
Now, you have some ideas of relationships in college.
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